Is your period pain trying to tell you something?

Period pain is probably the most common symptom that disturbs us woman.

We've come to believe that period pain is something that we should endure. But I'm here to tell you that period pain actually isn't normal.

With the amount of woman that suffer from period pain, it seems to just become an accepted part of being woman that having a period is associated with cramps, stabbing intense pain, complete wipe out every month once a month, probably for as long as the day that one actually started their period.

They talk about the imbalance of hormones, the impact of certain foods that you eat, sometimes even the types of exercise that you do. But what if that pain that you've been experiencing when it comes to your period is actually trying to tell you something?

What if that pain in your womb, in your ovaries is actually asking you to dive a little deeper and acknowledge a part of yourself that wants your attention and is in need of being seen, witnessed and heard?

So I'm going to present a few what ifs and see how they resonate with you….

What if that pain is a direct manifestation of the way you subconsciously feel about your sexuality and femininity?

What if that pain is a physical manifestation of the feminine aspects of yourself that you have been repressing and suppressing?

What if that pain is asking you to connect deeper to the feminine and heal the relationship you have with your mother?

What if the pain is a representation of the relationship you have with your period?

What if the pain you are experiencing is linked to how you subconsciously feel about being a woman living in a patriarchal society.

The womb is such a powerful energetic centre of the body for us females, its connected to our sacral chakra - the centre of our creativity, centre of our pleasure, and represents our relationship with the self and our worth. It is said that when we are disconnected from this energy centre, we are disconnected from our life force - the divine feminine energy that we possess within.

Everything starts with energy and manifests in the physical, and then the body talks to us in a way to get our attention creating symptoms that highlight an imbalance or blockage in the  bodies innate healing system.

See here's the thing, our modern-day culture introduces our period as a big problem, or inconvenience. We aren't taught to honour our cycles, or taught how our cycles are linked to the lunar cycle. If we go back to our ancestral times, before street lights and outside lights came to affect us, woman bled on the natural cycle of light, particularly the moon. Woman would all bleed together and learn together, leaving their tribes during these times. They would share their emotions and what they were feeling at this time, providing them with a space to feel, release and let go. Women would then come back to the tribes and share with the men what they had learnt and what needed to change, and this ultimately scared men as they started to see how powerful woman were with their emotions and during the time they had their periods.

This is then reflected in the patriarchal society that us woman live in today where we fail to honour our menstrual cycles and when we do bleed we just shove in a tampon or put in a pad and continue on with our day to day like nothing is going on, completely disconnected from what the body is going through and what is being released. It's an inconvenience, something that we just disregard, often we don't even give it a second thought about what are body is actually doing we just complain about it.

From a psycho-emotional-spiritual perspective how we responded to entering our 'Menarche phase' - when we first had our period - plays a role in how we feel about our sexuality/femininity. For example when I first had my period it was more like a "don’t make a big deal of it kind of thing" just put in a tampon and get on with it - this response to my period has been a pattern that I have played out for years and years until I became aware of it. Basically what I had then subconsciously believed was that there isn't a place for the feminine aspect of myself, instead I must hide and suppress this and focus on the practical, masculine aspect of the doing rather than the being. I experienced amenorrhea for 10 years - losing my period when I was an athlete and then only getting my period back to a regular cycle when I started to delve deeper into my own healing journey which enlightened me to how disconnected and shut off I was to the feminine and my ability to actually feel my emotions and allow them to be expressed.

Another thing that comes up in relation to period pain as a symptom is actually about how you feel about yourself being a female, often something that we have come to learn based on what we have observed or learn from from our own mothers or has been passed down. Our parents are only ever doing the best that they can with what they know and have experienced and for lots of us from this generation we have grown up with mothers that have come from parents that have really had to fight there  way in this society, and therefore suppressed a lot of their own traumas and experiences and gone about life with a 'just get on with it' approach. As a result we often take this on, store it in our body and and can impact how we actually feel about being a woman and in turn relates to how we feel about our own body - again something that ties into our period pain.

We are as a society gaining more awareness of ancestral trauma and how this is passed on, as well as coming to learn that the body really does keep the score and holds on to our experiences, and when it comes to things being passed on from generations the key place that this is passed on in woman is our womb space/our sacral chakra.   

Too many woman are feeling dis-empowered when it comes to the struggles they face with their period, not enough conversation is being had around these things that focus on turning inwards rather than looking outside of yourself for the answers.

So with this information I urge you to sit and reflect on the relationship you have with your period, your sexuality, your womb, your sacral chakra.

Give yourself space to self inquire and feel into how it feels to place your awareness on your womb space and allow your body to really talk to you without any judgement.

Maybe you feel completely disconnected from this space… that's absolutely okay, the first step is acknowledging and accepting this.

Maybe you start by just getting a little more in tune with your cycle - witnessing and observing what comes up for you when it comes to your period.

Maybe you grab your journal and reflect on what reading this post has brought up for you…

True healing means becoming active in the process, of wanting to bring about change. It's less about trying to fix and take things away its more about self enquiry, connecting back into the body and tuning into its messages, whilst bringing about acceptance and compassion.

It's time to take back our power as woman and come to develop a relationship with ourselves that doesn’t focus on parts of ourselves being a problem in need of being fixed, instead coming to connect much deeper with parts of ourselves so we can truly experience what it means to give love deeply.